Top 10 In-law Survival Tips For The Holidays

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8. Remain Neutral

Deflect — or at least postpone — negativity. If your in-law criticizes you, your partner, or a member of your family, simply smile and reply with a neutral comment, such as, “Think so?” Later, after the holidays are over and you have more control over the setting, you can share that it hurt your feelings.

em-and-lo1You may tie each other up every Monday and feel completely comfortable exploring each other's less traveled orifices, or you may consider doggie style to be "experimental" — but when it comes to the holidays, we're all just a bunch of overgrown kids hoping to survive extended time with the in-laws (or potential future in-laws).

We interviewed therapist Dr. Terri Orbuch, author of the book Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, who says she has found, in her long-term study of married couples, that when a husband or wife fails to get along with the in-laws, it's predictive of marital unhappiness down the road. "On the flip side," she says, "in the happiest marriages from my study, both spouses reported that they felt close to, or at least got along with, their in-laws."

We distilled Orbuch's advice into 10 rules for making sure your relationship survives the onslaught of questionable family members this holiday season.

View more posts from Em & Lo on SUNfiltered.10. Take Deep Breaths9. Deal with Separate Sleeping Quarters8. Remain Neutral7. Avoid Interrogation6. Set Boundaries5. Learn to Say "When"
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