With all the backlash over “legitimate rape” vs. illegitimate (sic) rape last week, another great debate got a little lost in the shuffle: the gay-marriage debate between Dan Savage, sex columnist and married gay dad of one adopted son, and Brian Brown, the president of the National Organization for Marriage and straight married father of seven biological kids.
OK, so maybe love is a strong word for North Korean dictator Kim Jong Un’s marriage. But who knows what goes on behind closed doors? In Scotland, doors might be opening for gay couples who wish to marry. Which is pretty much the last country we would have expected it from (except maybe North Korea… and Iran… OK, OK, the Scots aren’t that bad). But while it’s getting gradually easier to marry a same-sex partner across the globe (to the moon and back, even — thanks, Sally Ride), it’s not getting any easier to be a VP in the U.S. (or to get away with cheating if you’re a celebrity, for that matter).
Wedding season is upon us and if you’re looking for the perfect gift, I have a few suggestions that aren’t likely on the registry. You might be tempted to go for the traditional, like something for entertaining or to spruce up the house, but what would really make an impact is a bed. Of course, that all depends on who you’re spending for. Same-sex couples now have the privilege to legally wed in 6 states (woo hoo!), with President Obama recently offering his blessing in the fight for marriage equality. Legions of people, gay and straight, have donated their social media statuses to show support, spent time lobbying and ponied up their hard earned cash, so that two people in love, regardless of their sex, can say “I do” and be granted the many benefits that go along with it. In fact, to advance the cause, a staggeringly large and unprecedented amount of money has been raised with special thanks to donations from folks in Hollywood, on Wall Street and in Washington (amongst other places). Everyone loves love and attending fabulous parties, and those could be part of the inspiration behind this mass mobilization. Plus, with all the revenue gay marriage is predicted to generate, it’s not hard to tell why the ‘powers that be’ are celebrating too. But as we’re preparing to put on our dancing shoes for a weekend of Pride parades and dances celebrating how far we’ve come in the fight for marriage equality, GLBT youth across the country are worrying about where they’re going to sleep. More than 300,000 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender youth experience homelessness every year and the already meager funding for beds in shelters is being cut.
That the POTUS took a position on gay marriage, which led Andrew Sullivan to writethe thirtieth state to ban gay marriage.
A lot of people think the end of the world is something that will happen abruptly when no one’s expecting it, like a great flood (Katrina), or massive earthquake (there’s a big one yearly—Haiti, Virginia all the way up the east coast—but who’s counting) or even an alien race intent on genocide before plunging the planet’s natural resources. But good social conservatives, and the occasional homophobe, have been seeing the warning signs for decades. Slowly but surely equal rights have been granted to homosexuals in America. Can you believe it? They want to be like everyone else. Here are a few highlights from the past that make this eschatological theory plausible.
A sci-fi themed brothel will open in Nevada soon. Apparently somebody there got the crazy idea that sci-fi nerds need a little help getting laid.
2012 ushers in same-sex civil unions in Hawaii and Delaware.
But here’s one reason not to tie the knot: Gay and lesbian couples pay thousands more in taxes, study finds.
A few years back we went on a cross country road trip to promote our first book, The Big Bang. We knew that we’d find dirty minds (i.e. eager book buyers) in places like San Francisco and Portland, but we couldn’t believe how kinky things got in Raleigh, NC! One guy asked us to spank him with his copy of our book after signing it, and someone else asked us to inscribe a book to their partner who was “tied up” at home (quite literally, it turned out). Later, at the bar (and this was a chic cheese and wine spot, mind you) someone grabbed his partner’s boob right in front of us, and a long time reader gifted us with one of his company’s gorgeous glass dildoes. All of us which is to say, we were thrilled but not entirely shocked to read recently that a Baptist church in Raleigh just announced that they will not perform any legal wedding ceremonies until North Carolina accepts same-sex marriage…
Well, our GIRLS WHO LIKE BOYS WHO LIKE BOYS sure have their opinions on the whole marriage thing. We all want to find love. And for most of us, that means a partner we can rely on to stand by us, challenge us, and (maybe) cuddle with us. If we didn’t care about that stuff so much, romantic comedies would just be Jennifer Aniston clipping coupons in her bedroom for two hours. We want the happy ending–to settle down on the porch with a bottle of wine and a life of love to gaze back on.
Sex in space? Maybe. But scientists still aren’t sure that reproduction works in the microgravity of space.
Economists say adult circumcision is not the most cost-effective anti-HIV tactic.
Study finds that moderate exercise makes middle-aged women feel better about themselves, while intense work-outs make them feel like shit.
New York considers Medicaid for transgender surgeries.
The rape definition in federal crime statistics is too narrow, critics, say.
Our photographer friend David Jacobs (he took our deceptively flattering bio pic) was hired by Human Rights Campaign, a gay rights organization, to document New York’s first day of legal gay marriage this past Monday at Manhattan’s City Hall. HRC will soon have more on their site, but for now here’s a round-up of the day’s events by their National Field Director, Marty Rouse. And below is our friend Dave’s take on events (he’s not gay, but he’s married and does rock the occasional pink shirt with flare), followed by more of his cool photos of the happy couples.
One state at a time! Last Friday evening New York passed a marriage equality bill, allowing gay couples to finally legally marry in the state. Within hours the Empire State building was lit up in a rainbow of colors — woohoo! The pics of the building went Twitterrific all weekend. The most plausible explanation we’ve heard is…
We usually hate anything that anthropomorphizes cuddly animals in some inanely cute way, like with tuxedos or having them work at a desk or some shit like that (you know, the kind of stuff your mom forwards to you and her entire address book, NOT bcc’d). But we can’t resist this particular case, since it…
The teen pregnancy rate has gone down and everyone and their mother (read: MTV’s 16 and Pregnant, abstinence-only education, comprehensive sex ed, the recession, Bristol Palin, and of course her mother) are attempting to take credit.
Biden says that same-sex marriage is as inevitable as the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”
Over at The Daily Beast Barbara Spindel has written a lovely little essay about Archie’s new gay character. While on the surface a gay character in a comic book seems to be really no big deal, it is in fact a big deal. For Archie is an America icon. It is a comic that has…
As if you needed another reason to quit, research shows that smoking drastically increases the chances of erectile dysfunction.
Obesity, on the other hand, gets a free pass in the birth control department: Contrary to what was previously thought, obesity does not lower the effectiveness of the birth control pill.
Okay, okay, we know that Iceland really screwed up air travel with that volcano incident. And the collapse of their financial system was a major international bummer. But they deserve to be forgiven — check it out:
Icelandic Prime Minister Johanna Sigurdardottir just married her long-term partner, making her the world’s first national leader with a same-sex spouse. The wedding took place the day a new law took effect, which defines marriage as a union between two consenting adults, regardless of sex.
Before she got married, her claim to fame was that she was the world’s only openly gay prime minister. But it was never a big deal in Iceland. Because, you know, it isn’t. Iceland has long been progressive in LGBT matters. All the way back in 1996, they passed a law creating registered partnerships for same-sex couples, which covered nearly all the rights and benefits of marriage.
Devin & Glenn – watch more funny videos Gays are normal people. We fall in love. We have passionate sex. We settle down. We tire of one another. Yes, it happens to us too, people. In the above film, featuring Justin Long (The Mac guy) and Mike White, the couple do what many couples do:…
- In modern John Hughes-ish news: After months of negotiations (and getting thrown out of his house by his parents), a gay boy in Bleckley County, Georgia is finally given permission to bring a same-sex date to his prom. (And then a couple of loser students protest the decision.)
- In geek news: The future of porn is 3-D.
- In kinky science news: Turns out black truffles have sex lives, too.
Yesterday gay couples began to legally wed in the great state of Vermont. Vermont, now known for its stance on marriage equality, has always been a state for lovers. Lovers of ice cream that is.
University of Iowa Professor and author of the book, How Voters Decide [books.google.com], David Redlawsk has broken down how voters make decisions into four categories of voters: confirmative, fast & frugal, intuitive, and rational. Confirmative: These voters vote along party lines. The look for any additional information they gather to further confirm their beliefs. Fast…