How to close the orgasm gap
It’s not exactly rocket science to say that men orgasm more often than women when they have sex with each other. Now, if you had to guess, what do you think happens to this orgasm gap as a relationship progresses from casual hookup to repeated hookup to serious commitment? Yep, the orgasm gap closes. According to new research by Elizabeth Armstrong, a sociology professor at the University of Michigan, women orgasm about 80% as often as men do in close relationships — but only 32% as often in first hookups. This research is based on feedback from 12,000 college students across the country. In other words, yes, the undergraduate female orgasm is a rare and special beast.
This is likely due in part to the fact that fellatio tends to be consistent across all relationship types, while cunnilingus comes into play mostly in long-term relationships. Also, men tend to report that they have casual sex for an orgasm, whereas women do it for many reasons, and orgasm is not necessarily at the top of the list (meaning they’re less likely to demand something from their casual sex partners — shame on you, ladies).
Now, far be it from us to tell women that you should avoid casual sex altogether (we’re not stupid and we’re not your parents), but we will wag our fingers and tell women that you need to get better at asking for — demanding, even — what works for you in bed. You can do it with a boyfriend, so why can’t you do it with some drunk idiot you’ll probably never see again? It’s not, you know, rocket science.
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