In praise of the quickie (and quickie erotica)
Have you ever glanced over at the alarm clock on your night-stand during sex and calculated exactly how many hours are left until it rings? An extended 69 or a slow and sensual love-making sesh is suddenly much less appealing when every minute of pleasure is a minute less of shut-eye. Which might explain a recent study which found that 8 in 10 people would choose a good night’s sleep over sex. But what if you didn’t have to choose, what if you could have both sleep and sex? Hello, quickie!
Many women in long-term relationships tell us that if sex didn’t last so long — 10 minutes, say, instead of 45 — they’d be up for it more often. In fact, a recent survey of sex therapists in the U.S. and Canada found that the most satisfactory intercourse for couples lasts anywhere from 3 to 13 minutes (no matter what Sting might say to the contrary). And it’s no secret that most men are amenable to a speedy climax — they just don’t often request one because it’s not considered particularly gentlemanly.
Quickies get a bad rap as sub-par sex — especially for women — but really, what’s not to love? It doesn’t eat into your beauty rest, it won’t make you late for work, and it’ll be over by the time your 5-year-old knocks on the door to tell you he ate a crayon.
Conventional wisdom would have us believe that all women need extended foreplay — at least 30 minutes’ worth — to get anywhere near an orgasm, which may be one reason why quickies aren’t embraced more. The thinking goes that women, on average, take a lot longer to get in the mood and a lot longer to reach orgasm than men. But just ask any woman who masturbates on a regular basis and she’ll probably tell you that she can climax in mere minutes on her own. In fact, studies have found that during masturbation, men take an average of two to three minutes to reach orgasm, and women are right behind them at just under four minutes.
Enter the book Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica. It’s jam-packed with super-short erotic stories, for those times when your sexual attention is lacking. Skim one of the stories between hitting the snooze button and your second alarm, then hit snooze one more time for an actual, honest-to-god quickie. And if you’re the kind of person who sometimes finds erotica, well, a bit cheesy, then these stories will be over before your inner literary snob has time to kick in!
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photo from Got a Minute? 60 Second Erotica