Love is binary, and other parenting myths

If you’re a faithful reader of SUNfiltered, then you know we love us a good Ted Talk. So we were thrilled to discover that the two of us were in one! Well, just a fleeting picture of us, but we’ll take what we can get. Our old boss, Rufus Griscom, went on to found the parenting site with his wife Alisa Volkman, and the two recently gave a Ted Talk on some big parenting taboos: not falling in love with your baby immediately; feeling lonely after having a baby; talking openly about a miscarriage; admitting your average happiness has gone down after kids; and working with your baby-daddy/mommy — some  interesting points in the talk worth checking out if you have or want kids. Most Ted Talks include images used to illustrate the presenter’s thesis, so we were surprised and delighted, yet confused to see a 20-foot picture at the start of the talk of the four of us in an old flame-painted convertible known then as the Nerve-mobile (Rufus and Alisa in the front, us riding up and out in the back) on our way to one of those fabulous turn-of-the century Internet parties in New York City. We guess they used it to illustrate their pre-baby pre-Babble lives (Rufus said he’s always loved that picture) but viewers must wonder what those two badly dressed freeloaders are doing in the car that Ruf and Alisa are driving into the future of their lives together.