And the Mom of the Year Award goes to…
If every mom in the U.S. was as awesome as this blogger, Nerdy Apple Bottom, we think you could successfully eradicate bullying, homophobia, sexism, and mean-ism in one fell swoop. Or at least make a huge dent in them. Here’s why: Her five-year-old son — who may or may not be gay and she’s totally okay with that either way — begged to dress up as Daphne from Scooby Doo. At the last minute he started panicking that people would make fun of him. Turns out he shouldn’t have worried about his peers… it was the other moms who acted like overgrown Mean Girls. Under the guise of “concern” they questioned the blogger’s decision as a mother to let him do this, and expressed shock (and even disgust) that she hadn’t put her foot down and said no. Nerdy Apple Bottom writes:
Just as it was heartbreaking to those parents that have lost their children recently due to bullying. IT IS NOT OK TO BULLY. Even if you wrap it up in a bow and call it ‘concern.’ Those women were trying to bully me. And my son. MY son.
Although we’re not convinced she should have pushed him to go through with it if he was genuinely having reservations (nor are we sold on the thoughtfulness of putting his face on the Internet with the guaranteed-meme-making tabloid title “My Son Is Gay”), we’re otherwise down with the spirit of her actions and their defense. When “concerned” people say “the world isn’t ready for gay marriage” or “the world isn’t ready for interracial couples” or “the world isn’t ready for women to vote,” it’s not ready only because of bigoted people who say that kind of thing. And those uptight Christian parents at this little boy’s church preschool are the ones who need their perspectives challenged most. Because this little boy dressing up as a favorite female character should not be a big deal — and only more and more people actually living out their progressive values makes it less of a big deal.
If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off.
That’s our favorite part. Somebody seriously needs to make up bumper stickers that say “I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off.”
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