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One-night stands can so lead to beautiful relationships

Before we started writing about sex, we had no idea that so many scientists and researchers spent time so much time studying our sexual proclivities. These days we have trouble thinking of anything sexual that hasn’t been qualified and quantified and written up in a science journal.

Take the age-old issue of whether you’re ruining your shot at a relationship if you sleep with someone on a first date. According to science — at least, according to a new study out of the University of Iowa, just published in the journal Social Science Research — not necessarily. Once you factor out people who weren’t serious about entering a relationship in the first place, it’s pretty much even-stevens. Meaning, couples who boinked on the first date tend to be just as happy and satisfied in their long-term relationship as couples who held off for a while and just masturbated furiously when they got home after a date. (Okay, so that furious masturbation thing wasn’t actually in the survey — we made that up.)

We love it when science backs up what we’ve been saying for years in our advice column. We’ve always said this: If someone (most likely a guy) isn’t interested in a serious relationship with you, then you could withhold sex for five minutes or five years — and he’s still not going to be interested in a serious relationship at the end of it. And now science has proved the corollary: If someone is interested in a serious relationship with you, it doesn’t matter whether you withhold sex for five minutes or five years — they’re still going to be interested in a serious relationship at the end of it. At least, we’re pretty sure that’s what the research shows. Then again, we don’t wear lab coats.

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